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Happy Valentineās Day, twenty-somethings! Today, amidst the celebration of love, I want to talk about a topic that's been on my mind lately - love in its romantic form. I know Iāve been super focused on self-love this month, only because itās so important to have, but today I felt that itās only right to talk about romantic love, and what better way to do that than by sharing a love story?
It was 2014 when I met my best friend. He was outgoing, and at the time, I think I was kind of outgoing too. Back then, everyoneās main social channel was Twitter, so one day, being the outgoing person he was, he decided to just jump into a conversation I was having with some friends on Twitter and from there, our (platonic) connection was almost instant. Our personalities just lined up so well, and we had the same sense of humor. I like to think that we were just destined to be best friends.
Moving forward a bit, we continued our friendship through college, where our connection grew deeper. In college, we essentially grew up together. We experienced so many new things with each other, from new boyfriends/girlfriends, to sharing a friend group, to (almost) failing classes together, to our first cars, and a bunch of other twenty-something stuff. But what really stood out as a transformative point in our friendship for me was the way he was there for me during my heartbreaks.
As a twenty-something year-old girl, please believe me when I say I experienced my fair share of heartbreaksāas most of us have. But for me, maybe, because Iām a cancer, I REALLY went through it. I didnāt feel like going out to parties, I didnāt want to hang with friends, I really just wanted to sit and sulk. And with my best friend, I justā¦ could. I could sit and be sad whenever I wanted to, and he would just sit right beside me. When I was really sad, he could always tell, and he would take me to go get ice cream, and weād just talk and eat ice cream together. This was a different level of friendshipāone I never had. He was my true best friend.
I had never had anyone treat me like this, even the guys in the relationships that left me so āheartbroken.ā I really felt special with him. And thatās when it hit meā¦I realized I had a crush on my best friend.
Yes, I know. I too hate the ābest friends-to-loversā trope, because it really does take a long time to come to fruition, and yesā it really is that awkward in real life when one of you makes the first move.
Itās funny because once we started dating, everyone was like, āWe always knew you guys would get together,ā and itās like, how did yāall know when we didnāt even know?
Anyways, here we are ten years later and I wouldnāt change a thing about our story.
I wanted to share it with you because I know how hard it can be to recognize when youāve met the right person, but during my long journey with my bestfriend-turned-lover, Iāve picked up some tips that I hope can help you when youāre deciding whether or not youāre with āthe right oneā:
The right one will never make you feel less than beautiful, even on days when you donāt feel beautiful.
The right one will never make you feel like youāre asking for too much.
The right one will never make you question if you can tell them something.
The right one will never judge you for your mistakes.
The right one will never stop trying to get you, even when they have you.
The right one will notice small things about you, even ones that you donāt notice yourself. Theyāll also remember things about you.
The right one will help you achieve your goals and your dreams, and will support you during every step of the way.
The right one will tell you when youāre wrong about something, and will never have you looking stupid.
The right one will never let anyone disrespect you.
The right one will let you be yourself, and wonāt judge your weird habits.
The right one will have boundaries, and will respect your boundaries.
The right one will treat the ones they love with respect, and will not let you disrespect the ones they love.
The right one will be there for you when youāre sad, and if you donāt want to talk, theyāll be there for you, in silence.
The right one will be happy for you when youāre happy, and will support you when youāre successful.
The right one will listen to you, and when you have an issue with them, theyāll work to fix it.
The right one will communicate with you effectively.
The right one will allow you to let your guard down.
The right one will share your main values with you.
The right one will have easy flowing conversations with you.
The right one can communicate with you without even talking. Youāll pick up on each otherās body languages.
The right one will be okay with doing nothing with you.
Lastly, the right one isnāt afraid to talk about you, or take you out, or show you off.
I hope these tips help you all realize when youāve met the right one. I know I have! Happy Valentineās Day, lovers!
Love,
Mia, the twenty something ā”
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